So Amina came back to see me as planned. If you are new to the blog, please read the previous articles here http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/09/25/contraception-to-ignore-it-or-tackle-it-that-is-the-question-2/ and also http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/09/30/youre-pregnant-congratulations-or-not/.
This time, I was pleased to see that she’d brought her husband with her. Studies show that if men are involved in making decisions about contraception, the women are more likely to continue with the method jointly chosen and are more tolerant of side effects. So ladies, take your husband along with you to the family planning clinic if you can.
After they both sat down and we finished with the pleasantries, the husband said: “I came so I can see this doctor who is suggesting adoption to my wife.” He was angry. “How could you even suggest such a thing?”
I gave Amina my best what-have-you-been-telling-your-husband look. I was taken aback.
“How would she carry the pregnancy? Everybody will see her pregnant and then what will we say to people when there is no baby in the end?”
‘I won’t let anyone know I am pregnant…’ Amina ventured timidly.
‘Indeed, when you start spitting all over the place, how won’t people know? And when the tummy starts showing, what would you say is inside there? Food?’
I stifled my laughter.
“We were just discussing possible options to abortion,” I explained. “I do the same with any woman who presents for an abortion; but of course the ultimate decision lies with you and we are here to help whatever your decision. I just try to make sure you’ve thought things through.’
I could see him visibly relax as I explained.
“Abortion is not like having your tooth taken out, you know.”
“Okay, I see,” he said, his voice quieter.
“All this wouldn’t have happened if she’d been more careful,” he continued gesturing at Amina.
“Me?!” Amina recoiled at the accusation. I could see tears forming.
“How do you mean?” I asked.
“’Doctor please tell her she needs to ensure she doesn’t keep getting pregnant. Even little girls of 16 years know how to not get pregnant.”
“What do you think you could do to help the situation?”
“Me?”’ He was thrown by my question. “But this is her responsibility. She is the one getting pregnant.”
“Have you ever considered getting sterilised?”
“What?! First you talked of adoption, now you are saying sterilisation! Surely you don’t understand our ways even though you are one of us. A man doesn’t get sterilised.”
“Okay, I look forward to discussing that at another time with you but, for now, let’s hear what you’ve decided to do about this pregnancy.”
“Abortion of course.”
I looked at Amina to get her consent. “Yes doctor, we will go for an abortion,” she said quietly.
“So what do we do next?” She asked.
I shall be discussing what happens on the next blog so be sure to click the follow button so you don’t miss out.
What do you think about male sterilization?
Consider these statistics from the World Health Organisation (WHO) 2013 on contraceptive use. The percentages using male sterilisation for different countries are as below:
South Africa 0.7%
It’s obvious that the concept of male sterilisation hasn’t taken root among black communities.
Should we be promoting male sterilisation? What do you think is the reason why black men do not go for sterilisation even when they are sure their families are complete?
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