HIV? Me? No, I’m married! (2)

After Mma left, I sat thinking. It all started coming back to me. It must have been like eighteen months ago or more that Mma and her children had come to register at the surgery having recently moved into the area from Africa. She had told me then that they had come overseas due toContinue reading “HIV? Me? No, I’m married! (2)”

HIV? Me? No, I am married!

Mma looked at me her eyes filled with tears. She was so overcome with emotion that she could hardly speak. I had to look down as I felt my own tears gathering behind my eyelids. I must remain professional. I must not get drawn in. “Doctor, are you sure? Are you sure this is myContinue reading “HIV? Me? No, I am married!”

A Challenge to Black Men.

Massive thanks to all who participated in our poll on contraception. Your involvement makes your feelings clear and once we know what our feelings are, we can change them in positive ways. Never forget that you have a voice and ‘We must be the change we wish to see in the world’ – Gandhi. So pleaseContinue reading “A Challenge to Black Men.”

I don’t want my wife to be sterilized!

“No doctor, I really don’t want to go down the condom route. There is just no way I could rely on condoms again. So please, as he doesn’t want to be sterilised,  just tell me what I need to do to get sterilised. I’m the one who has gone through the abortions and the childContinue reading “I don’t want my wife to be sterilized!”

Sterilisation? That’s castration, right??

Last week we found out that Amina and her husband decided to go for an abortion. The last post can be read here http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/10/06/its-my-wifes-fault/ In the UK, the organisation that regulates doctors (called the General Medical Council or GMC for short) recognises that some doctors may have a conscientious objection to some procedures, such asContinue reading “Sterilisation? That’s castration, right??”

It’s my wife’s fault!

So Amina came back to see me as planned. If you are new to the blog, please read the previous articles here http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/09/25/contraception-to-ignore-it-or-tackle-it-that-is-the-question-2/ and also http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/09/30/youre-pregnant-congratulations-or-not/. This time, I was pleased to see that she’d brought her husband with her. Studies show that if men are involved in making decisions about contraception, the women are moreContinue reading “It’s my wife’s fault!”

You’re pregnant! Congratulations! (Or not?)

A warm welcome to today’s post! I trust you have had a great time since the last blog and that you are already inspired to take positive measures towards better sexual well being. Why not let other black sisters know what new steps you’ve taken. Drop a comment in the box below and you canContinue reading “You’re pregnant! Congratulations! (Or not?)”

Contraception- to ignore it or tackle it…that is the question!

Its one of those issues that confront women at one time of their lives or another. It just wont go away! Atleast not while sex continues 😉 Many ignore it at their peril. Others barely tolerate it as a necessary evil. Where do you stand? Consider my discussion with Amina below (name changed to protectContinue reading “Contraception- to ignore it or tackle it…that is the question!”