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One of the things that intrigues and saddens me is the transition I note in the medical records of a young girl as she grows into womanhood.
Initially most girls attend the GP for simple coughs and colds. All is rosy. A little paracetamol makes everything alright. She is her parents’ cute little thing with no cares in the world. She skips about the clinic curious about everything, as healthy as can be. The snuffly nose is likely viral and not needing anything done other than paracetamol for a slight fever.
She attends again just as she starts puberty. She is with mum and suddenly she needs 6 months of antibiotics to keep her acne at bay. No matter how I reassure her that her spots are an expected outcome of growing up and nothing to worry about she is adamant that they are ruining her life and must be fixed ASAP.
Four months down the line, we are discussing contraception and she seems to have turned into this stranger who can barely smile. Her heavy and inexpertly applied mascara discloses that she is getting initiated into womanhood. Who is this male that will not let our little girl enjoy the simplicity of girlhood? I miss her innocence!
How can I tell her that it’s just too early to start ingesting all sorts of hormones?
How can I make her understand that this is the time to study and build a solid foundation for her future? I mention gently that she doesn’t have to feel obliged to have sex at 14 years but she looks strangely at me and huffs ‘I am the only one not having sex yet in my class!’
She visits me all the time now. She keeps forgetting to take her contraceptive pill, she can’t stand the contraceptive injection, ‘Wouldn’t it make me fat?’ She screams when I suggest it.
‘The coil then?’
‘No! I don’t want anything down there!’
‘What of an implant in your arm?’
‘Does it hurt?’ she asks fingering the tiny rod I have shown her.
‘No we will numb the area and pop it in. You won’t feel a thing.’ She is happy with that.
I ask about school.
‘They are nuts!’ She replies.
She attends again. I smile when I see her name on my screen. I call her into the consulting room. She walks in with ‘my boyfriend.’
‘Who?!’ I silently scream.
‘Where is mum?? Who is this boyfriend?’
I keep my questions to myself and force myself to listen.
The tests are back. My little no-longer-so little girl has Chlamydia! I am furious but cannot show it. I give them both treatment and sternly explain the importance of using condoms with new sexual partners.
I wonder again about school.
She is wearing her school uniform concealed under a jacket that looks like a man’s one. I notice it is creased and slightly too short and too tight for her. Does she look tired or is it my imagination? Has she been home at all? I wonder.
She attends two weeks later, unable to pee.
‘It is so sore and I have got rashes all over my pussy!’
She has Herpes this time around. ‘Boyfriend needs to be treated as well,’ I explain as I pass a catheter to drain her bladder.
‘Stupid man! He left me! ‘Her Lips quiver as she tries not to burst into tears.
‘Sorry to hear that.’
I am silent as I finish up and remove the catheter.
She is back in three weeks. We can’t find her period!!
‘What of the implant?’
‘Oh I attended last month and took it out.’
‘Seriously?! But I thought boyfriend was at large….’
‘I have a new partner. He is so gorgeous! We are going to have a baby’ she explains excitedly.
I am completely stunned.
I prescribe folic acid and book an appointment for the midwife.
I feel foolish for asking about school. I don’t want to dampen her joy. Am I old fashioned? Have the times left me behind? At sixteen, I was neck deep into my Science books not necking with a bloke. The last thing on my mind then was having a baby.
She attends with her new bloke two weeks later. ‘We want a termination’ he explains. ‘We are not ready for a baby yet.’
She doesn’t say much. She clutches his hand as if it is her lifeline. I look at her and feel hopeless. Her mascara is smeared around her eyes that look so tired. She has been crying.
I need to be sure this is what she wants. She nods her agreement when I ask her directly. I desperately search for my little girl in the eyes that I look into. A stranger stares back at me. I arrange an appointment at the TOP clinic.
She returns not too long after. I anxiously look at the corridor as I let her into the consulting room. Surely she is not alone, is she?
She cries her heart out. I offer tissue after tissue. She has symptoms of mild depression. I counsel her. I recommend ‘Beating the blues’ ‘mood gym’ or what about a nice book at the library? ‘I don’t know where the library is,’ she replies.
I am about to suggest more but she cuts me short, impatiently.
‘My friends say I need antidepressants.’
Your friends!!? Are they doctors by any chance?
We reassess next week. She is adamant that only tablets will fix her mood. She will cut herself if I don’t do something.
She rolls up her sleeves and shows me tiny shallow cuts on her arm.
‘Why?’ I ask, ‘what will you do in summer when it’s time to wear short sleeves? How will you hide your self inflicted scars?’
I refer her to the psychiatrist.
She is started on medication.
It’s been twenty years.
My little girl has turned into a bitter hardened woman with alcohol as her closest companion.
We are trying to save what is left of her liver.
‘Please stop drinking so much,’ I plead.
‘Why?’ She spits.
I am on a home visit but there is nowhere to sit.
Clutter all over. I can easily count up to 10 empty bottles of beer.
‘What of work?’ I ask desperately hoping for a tiny ray of sunshine.
She laughs at my stupidity.
Her ‘friends’ come in.
‘Please leave now,’ she asks as the two men sweep off clutter from the sofa unto the floor so they can sit.
The three of them light up their cigarettes laughing at nothing. They seem like zombies.
I want to scream at them, to leave my little girl alone but as I open my mouth to speak, I gulp in smoke, I choke. My eyes burn. I feel like they are receding into the distance. I can still see them laughing but I can’t hear any sound. Am I going crazy?!
I run out into the street and greedily inhale some fresh air.
Sadness engulfs me. Longing for what should be threatens to overwhelm me.
When the call comes, I am not shocked. ‘We found her in a pool of vomit,’ says the police man. She may have choked on her own vomit, they think.
‘We need a doctor to come and PLE,’ he asks.
I find a reason not to go. I have a migraine. I plead with my colleague to go.
I want to remember her as she was many years ago. Bubbly, full of life, excited about everything… Not stone cold, covered in vomit.
RIP my little girl.
What can we do to keep our young girls from sliding into these patterns?
Where are the fathers?
Where are the mothers?
Where are the big sisters?
Where are the big brothers?
Where are the leaders?
Where are the heroes and heroines our girls can look up to?
It is indeed an epidemic of lack of decent role models.
How many more of our young people shall we lose before we find the role models?
Dr Adaeze Ifezulike is a Family Physician/GP who is passionate about healthy lifestyles, weight management, optimising sexual health and wellbeing particularly among women and youths. She is the author of ‘Medicine abroad: compulsory for medics trained outside the western world’ https://amzn.to/2tUCdX6 and ‘Understanding contraception’, an Amazon Best seller.
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Goodmorning Fabulous readers,
Last night I spent 1 hour reading a book called ‘Slight edge’.
I recommend it highly -it’s just a few pounds if you buy the kindle or eVersion of it.
The slight edge in a nutshell can be summarised as- if you have ever been successful at anything, look at what you did to be successful, repeat those steps and you WILL KEEP BEING SUCCESSFUL!!! It is that simple!
I felt this was really relevant to healthcare professionals involved in helping people lead healthy lives and lose weight.
I support several women and men in my weight loss/healthy lifestyle program.
I teach my ladies (and gents!) this:
You have lost weight.
What did you do to lose weight?
What food choices did you make?
What type and amount of exercise did you do?
Just keep repeating the same steps and YOU WILL KEEP LOSING WEIGHT!!
No mystery nor magic!
Just continuing the same steps.
Repeat it today and tomorrow and the next….
In other words make it a lifestyle 👊
Have a fabulous day friends❤️
Dr Adaeze Ifezulike
ps: Are you are struggling with your weight or have weight related medical conditions such as Hypertension, Diabetes, Arthritis, Metabolic syndrome? Get in touch today!! I want to help you. Health is Wealth!
Welcome to class Healthy living 101 lol😀
Just a reminder about why we discourage foods with high glycemic values like processed carbohydrates such as frosted cornflakes and surgary drinks.
Please take a look at the charts above.
When you take high glycemic foods, they are immediately converted to GLUCOSE in the body (you might as well just eats up a plate of sugar, right?)🙈😅
This causes a massive glucose spike (HYPERGLYCAEMIA) in your blood stream. This is SOOO O O BAD for your blood vessels.
The hormone INSULIN swings into action to try and mop up all this glucose and you end up at the other end (HYPOGLYCAEMIA). This is also SOOO OOO BAD for your body and powerful cravings set in making you ravenously hungry, even though you ate not too long ago (that explains why you got so hungry just 2 hours after that massive plate of white rice, see?)🤔😏
Swings in BLOOD Glucose are dangerous for the body.
Aim to always eat foods with low glycemic value as they release sugar gently and keep you fuller for longer.
*Tip: Always eating a higher proportion of vegetables with any meal ensures that glucose in the meal is released slowly. So if you are having white rice (high glycemic value) ensure that you eat it with LOADS OF VEGETABLES.
Assignment S’ il vous plait 😂😂practicing my French here.
1. Search up on hyperglycaemic foods.
Have a lovely day friends 😘😘😘😘😘
Hello Friends,Just wanted to catch up with you as we are a few days into the New Year now. How’s it going so far?
Did you make some resolutions? If so, how are they going? Would you like some help in making them stick this time?
You see, that’s what I do and why I am different. For me, the nutrition stuff is important and I’ll of course teach you that and bust some myths in the process. The really juicy stuff though, is all in the mind!
Join us on our Six Week Reset challenge and we’ll help you uncover what’s been holding you back, and smash through to make that lasting change now.
We’d love to help you on your journey…
If you are overweight, suffer from Hypertension, Joint pains/Arthritis, Diabetes, chronic tiredness, lack of energy, poor sleep or just want to lead a healthier life,
SIGN UP TODAY, and save a massive £147! Making the cost to you just £50!!
Use this LINK now! (the promo code is already applied)
You won’t ever get a discount bigger than this… we just want to help as many people as possible make 2016 your year!
Hear what my client says:
“I was a good size 12-14 but after I had my son went to size 20-22! Everyone commented on how fat I looked, was called all sorts of derogatory names….but I always turned those comments into jokes.
This however was not a joke: The breathlessness, sleepless nights, bloating, taking antacids and muscle relaxants for my bladder on a daily basis were not fun at all!! Being a health professional I should have been embarrassed but I found all excuses to say how difficult losing weight was. I lied. Losing weight is so easy!!!!
I am so grateful for my union with Dr Adaeze- one of the most amazing people I have met in 2015! She has been very supportive and always very knowledgeable. God bless! I owe you sister!
I started my proper reset in early November. Resetting was the beginning of me loathing all bad foods, unhealthy carbs, cravings and appreciating a truly healthy meal. It was strange how much I started to crave for salads and soups, fish, chicken…instead of the usual poisons!
I now feel very healthy and light! NO MORE MEDICATION!!!
From 100kg, I am now 92kg in just 2 months!!
Resetting is the best gift you can give yourself. Being here is all what I needed to kick-start the weight loss.
I still have a very long way to go but how glad and lucky I am to be with you all! Without Dr Adaeze and everyone here, I wouldn’t have done it.” ~Healthcare professional
“All my clothes are now baggy and the old tight ones are now fitting me. For the first time in my suit career, I can now button my jacket easily” ~Professional in the Oil and Gas Industry.
“I started off at 101kg but now 88kg. I always had high blood pressure, fatigue due to anaemia and ulcer, so I had very ‘good’ excuses not to exercise but to eat.
Had my last 2 kids back to back and just never lost the baby fat but was left with a ‘kangaroo pouch’.
Now I am more alert. I used to always wake up tired and wanting to rest a bit more before getting up.That’s gone!! I literally wake up with a spring now” ~ mother of 4
I really hope you chose to join us on Monday 1st February as we start the journey- we look forward to helping you become the best version of yourself!
Your Six-Weeks to a fabulous YOU starts here
Our next Six Week Reset challenge this year starts on MONDAY 1st February!!
Now is your chance to sign up and be part of an already great group of people ready to make 2016 their best year! It’s time for you to join us!
See YOU at the TOP.
Dr Adaeze Ifezulike.
Its that season when we all feel merry and light. The season to party and rejoice with friends and family.
But you have to admit that no matter how into ‘healthy lifestyle’ you are, chances are that this is one time of year you kinda slip up or slack off a bit…
You will have ‘weight gain’ and ‘hangovers’ to worry about… unless you have a DAMAGE CONTROL plan to keep things in check.
Well, my friend Jon has come up with this brilliant DAMAGE LIMITATION PACK for you to control the damage you are likely to cause your body, during this festive season.
As another friend Tyler puts it, this package will ensure you “feel on top form everyday and you can still get into your little black dress or feel good to go again with the family or the lads on a night out.”
The Damage Limitation Pack Explained.
The ESSENTIALS – Your Multi-Vitamin/Mineral/Antioxidant combination of the highest quality. This plugs up EVERY nutritional gap your food contains especially at this time as we eat energy dense but nutrient poor foods. (Worth £42.50) Everyone should be on the Essentials as a baseline for optimal nutrition.
BIOMEGA – Simply Pure Fish Oil and the best there is. Most say they check for mercury, but that doesn’t mean they take it out. These guys do.
It’s the best anti-inflammatory you can take; it turns on your fat burning hormones, turns off your fat storage hormones.
Its superb for: healthy joints, brain development, skin, hair, nail and eye. It also supports arterial function and blood flow AND there’s some Vitamin D in there as well which we seriously lack over the winter months. (worth £22)
HEPASIL – If you like a drink, THIS is the supplement for you. (worth £32)
This is your Liver Detox. Everything you consume, everything, goes via the liver for removal of toxins. This can cause your liver to be overworked and stressed if you’re not consistently eating the right things causing all sorts of damage, from poor sleep, mood, weight gain, fatigue, illness and much more.
An unstable liver that isn’t functioning properly because of a build up of toxins (poor foods and alcohol) could cause a wide variety of long term health issues.
PROBIOTICS – Outstanding support for gut health containing the ‘good bacteria’ your body needs for proper digestion plus improved immunity. (worth £25)
DIGESTIVE ENZYME – Absolutely necessary considering the digestive assault you are about to put yourself through in the coming weeks! This will take care of your bloating and feelings of fullness or bloating after eating. (worth £30)
So, if you would like to purchase this pack, for yourself or someone else, I’ve arranged an awesome discount for you. It would normally cost you £151.50 but now………..£136.50
(that’s JUST £4.55 a day)
SHIPPING IS FREE if you take up this offer anytime up til the 1st of January 2016!
You know you’re gonna splash out this xmas.
Doesn’t it make sense to divert some of that money towards something that could do you GOOD rather than HARM?
If you would like to take advantage of this Offer, please send me a private inbox message.
Alternatively click on each image to take you straight to the store to buy the items you want.
GIVE YOURSELF AND YOUR LOVED ONES THE GIFT OF HEALTH …
Merry Christmas and a Fabulous new year from the Sexual Wellbeing Network!!
This is really a simple way especially for those who HATE their vegetables 😀 or who do not want to take iron tablets.
Here’s a simple way to build you blood levels using a delicious and healthy vehicle.
Dont forget to let me know if you found this video useful. Thanks!!
Link as promised 😀
Dr Adaeze is a Family Physician with a passion for helping people lead healthy lifestyles.
Disclosure: She is an independent Associate of USANA Health Sciences.
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