Copper Coil wins!

The result of our poll on contraceptives is out! Thanks to all who participated. You can view the poll here.

The result is given below in a chart. The contraceptive pills, patch, vaginal ring, contraceptive injection, withdrawal method, natural methods (like checking cervical mucus), caps and diaphragms got no votes at all! Suprise, suprise!

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Sexual Wellbeing Network: Contraception Poll.

Enjoy this cartoon drawn for us by caricaturist Rick Coleman 🙂                                                                                                                                                            

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Sexual Wellbeing Network: copper coil cartoon.


So you the readers voted the copper coil as your fav contraception.

See a picture of the coil in my hand below. Many people are suprised at how small it really is. They usually had a mental picture of a large motor coil in their head or a climbing rope 😀

Courtesy the private collection of Roy Winkelman

Courtesy the private collection of Roy Winkelman

But the coil is really quite small.

copper coil, sexual wellbeing network

Sexual wellbeing network: copper coil

So the next question is:

What do you like about the copper coil? What makes it your contraception of choice? If you didnt vote for it, what puts you off the copper coil? What makes you go, ‘Arrgh..noo!’ when the doctor suggests a copper coil? What method do YOU like/use and what makes it your own favourite? Are you surprised at the methods that got no vote?

Thanks again to all who voted! Watch out for our next poll!

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What is your Favourite Contraception?

What contraception do you like? Which contraception comes ‘Highly Recommended’ by you? Take our latest poll and find out if others agree with you. You can add your reason for recommending the contraception in the comment section if you like. If we have missed out a contraception available in your country, please let us know in the comment section and it will be added to the poll. Thanks for participating.

Sexual Wellbeing Network

Sexual Wellbeing Network

Sexual Wellbeing Network.

How do you decide on the dress to wear for an important occasion?
Do you put all your possible choices in a bag and then blindly pick out one? Or do you just get hubby or your nearest neighbour to choose one for you?
We decided to let you, the readers choose and we are happy to announce that the result of our name poll is in!!
A massive thank you to all who participated.
Below are the results in a chart – as always a picture speaks louder than words.


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What’s in a name??

“I call everyone ‘Darling’ because I can’t remember their names,” Zsa Zsa Gabor.

We are changing our blog address to something you can remember!!

Our community at Sexual Well-being for Black Ladies is at the heart of what we do.

So we want you to be involved in the change.

What name tickles your fancy?

What will be easy for you to write out for a friend who wants to be directed to the site?

Your site, your choice!! Take the poll to help us decide. It will only take a second to click the button. If none of the ones on the poll strike your fancy, feel free to add yours on the comment section and we will add it to the poll.

Voting closes in seven days. Thanks for helping us chose a name that reflects what the site is about.

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This poll has now closed! We will be releasing the results in a few day. Thanks for voting 🙂

A Challenge to Black Men.

Massive thanks to all who participated in our poll on contraception. Your involvement makes your feelings clear and once we know what our feelings are, we can change them in positive ways. Never forget that you have a voice and ‘We must be the change we wish to see in the world’ – Gandhi.

So please watch out for the next poll and take part in it.  The result of the poll is given below in a bar chart -a picture speaks louder than many words!


The majority of the respondents, 64%, felt it was a woman’s duty, 32% felt it was a man’s duty and just 5% felt it was the doctors’ duty to sort out the issue of contraception. None of the respondents thought  that a mother-in-law or father-in-law had any say in the matter, thankfully!

This is the traditional view and holds no surprises.

But I beg to differ!

With soaring abortion rates and unprecedented levels of sexually transmitted infections including HIV/AIDs, I lay the issue of contraception squarely at the Man’s door!!

Check out some statistics:

Of all the women living with AIDS, 64% are estimated to be Black women!!

AIDS continues to be the leading cause of death for black women aged 25-44(greater than death caused by heart disease, cancer and homicide!!)

You can read more here

Men, the time for ‘Bang, bang and bye’ has passed.

  •  I challenge men who know they have a sexually transmitted infection to ‘PUT ON A CONDOM’ and protect their partners.
  • I challenge men who know they engage in risky sexual behaviour to ‘GET TESTED FOR HIV AND HEPATITIS ANUALLY’ at the barest minimum.
  • I challenge men who no longer want to have children to ‘GET STERILIZED’ and help beat down the soaring abortion rates and high levels of unplanned pregnancies.
  • I challenge men who are approached by young girls to ‘REFUSE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE’ with these vulnerable girls and encourage the girls to go back to their studies and make something of their lives.
  • I challenge men who no longer want children to stop and ask their partners ‘WHAT CONTRACEPTION ARE YOU ON?’ and if you don’t get a satisfactory answer, take time to find out why and if need be, come to the family planning clinic with the lady. Statistics show that women take  the issue of contraception seriously if their partners are involved in the decision.

As usual, you can comment below. Feel free to share this with your network and help make a difference.

Now I have told you my opinion, what is yours??