”Which one of you is taking up the responsibility to ensure you always have condoms available ?” I asked.
(If you havent met Amina and Baako, you can meet them here and here)
”It’s a woman’s job, isnt it?” Baako shrugged.
”What makes it a woman’s job to provide contraception?” I was curious.
”Ask him, please!!” Amina said irritated.
”I will wear it if it’s available but don’t expect me to go into a shop to buy condoms.”
”Really! How do you think I look when I go to ask for condoms? What do you think the shopkeeper is thinking of this woman who has not only bought some spinach but also a box of condoms?? Eh?”
”That you have sex…” Baako teased.
Amina shook her head in despair.
”Well, the surgery has some free condoms in the toilet if you want to pick up some on your way out,” I offered, smiling.
Should you feel awkward when you go into a store to buy condoms?
Does your doctor’s clinic stock free condoms? Should they?
Hmmm! Am yet to understand how couples use condoms and enjoy sex. In my 7yr plus of marriage, thrice we tried to use condom, and it was very unsuccessful.
Hi Chioma, it’s different strokes for different folks, isn’t it? 😀
Each couple has to use what works for them.
The main importance of condoms is that apart from being contraceptive, condoms help prevent sexually transmitted infections especially in situations where fidelity isn’t guaranteed.
Thanks for writing in. Enjoy your day!
Its so good to see the story of Amina weave around and touch on aspects that are touchy and peculiar to black people, which is the idea of the blog in the first place. I identify with that feeling of a lady buying condoms and believe that putting condoms in a discreet place like the toilet will be very helpful until we attain boldness. Lol.
I had been a believer that it is the mans responsibility to provide the condoms, my views changed over time and now I believe the woman must do everything to protect herself which includes having her own supply of condoms.
Thanks for your comments, Engee!
You are right, this blog is aimed at discussing issues which have always remained ‘hush, hush’
If having her own supply of condoms will ensure a woman is protected against Sexually transmitted infections and unplanned pregnancies then, by all means, she needs to go for it!