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Part 4: A survivor of Sexual Abuse -Nina Ndubuisi.



The next morning “aunty” came into my room to wake me up to get me ready for school, that night unknowingly I had wet my bed and “aunty” had slapped me round the head for wetting the bed, I went into the bathroom and brushed my teeth, I sat on the toilet to do a wee and I felt the sharp burning sensation from within start over again, I must have been on the toilet for a long time as “aunty” came into the bathroom and dragged me off the toilet and ordered me into the bathtub, screaming that I was going to be late for school as I had spent most of the time on the toilet. After bathing I went into my room and got dressed putting on the same uniform I had worn the day before.

God has a way of looking out for “his own” and I believe that was the day that all those evil doers were going to get their comeuppance, how else can you explain “aunty” not noticing the uniform I wore to school was stained with blood and dried semen? How else can you explain “aunty” not keeping me off school as I was walking very funny?

I arrived in school that day and my appearance, coupled with the stains on my school skirt immediately drove the school authority into action, social services were called in and before you knew it, I found myself on an aeroplane being sent to Nigeria to live with my maternal grandparents.

Till this day, I don’t know what was used to penetrate me all I can think of are two things; either the empty beer bottle I noticed while lying on the floor that had some blood stains on the rim or “uncles” penis.

To be sexually abused strips you of what is pure and innocent. You grow up living with the shame that wears like a filthy, wet blanket. It is a darkness I would wish on no one. Sexual abuse can be extremely damaging, psychologically. Sexual abuse can have long devastating effects on its victims. Victims of sexual abuse often change their views on self and sexuality dramatically, in trying to deal with the trauma forced on them. Some begin to shun the idea of sex under any circumstances; others trivialize sexual abuse—thus they try to see it as nothing special in order to make light what has been done to them.

To be continued….

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