What has Cabbage got to do with Sex?!

Sexual Wellbeing Network

I once watched a chef on Youtube who was demonstrating how to cook cabbage with noodles.When she started listing her ingredients she called cabbage ‘gabbage.’ I assumed I hadn’t heard her right.
“Must have been a slip of tongue,’ I thought “Whoever calls ‘cabbage’ gabbage?”
And then she called it gabbage right till the end!
Well I watched to the end and wasn’t particularly impressed. And to crown it all, she said you could buy her recipe on Amazon! What a nerve! I thought. She is calling ‘cabbage’ gabbage and selling it on Amazon too! Humph!
My enjoyment of her show and appreciation of her culinary expertise had been hindered because I was put off that she was saying the wrong thing.
So what am I on about today? Is this now a cooking blog? : D
No!
But this made me think of the ideas many people have in their heads about sexual intimacy. Some have grown up thinking its a ‘dirty thing’ and this completely spoils their enjoyment of what can be so fulfilling and healthy as well. Sex is relaxing, it de-stresses you, fosters more intimacy between couples – what’s there not to like?!
Our mindset can make or mar our sexual experience.
Sometimes we are just too tired to bother and if one partner wants it but the other pushes them away, that can cause unnecessary conflict in marriage. 
A simple tip: If your partner comes to you and it’s obvious they want sex, but you have been to work, done the school run, cooked the dinner, sang at choir during the evening service and just managed to get the kids off to bed…all you need is some sleep for goodness sake! Yes: I know that feeling!
But give your partner a hug and a small kiss instead of pushing him away and say “Darling I want to make this great for you. Please let me sleep for two hours and I will be all hot for you. I promise.”
It works well for both of you 😉

HIV? Me? No, I’m married! (9)

”Partners of people who have a sexually transmitted infection need to be tested and treated as well.”

”She doesn’t have it,” he said.

”And you think so because you are not having sex with her?”

”Of course we are having sex…”

”So do you use a condom?”

”No.”

”So she might have caught it from you.”
He was silent.
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”Chlamydia infection can be serious for women, you see. It can cause infertility, constant pelvic pain, miscarriage and ectopic pregnancies.The good news is that it can be easily treated with antibiotics if detected early and then it wouldn’t have a chance to cause the things I have mentioned.”

”Well, this was two years ago and I am not going to drag this up now. My wife will kill me!”

”I understand. We can help though. When a patient has a sexually transmitted infection but is unable to tell their partner, with their permission, we can send a general text to the partner explaining that they may have been at risk of an infection and encouraging them to come for testing. This is called ‘Partner Notification’.

”I see.”

”Would you like us to do that for you?”

”I will have to think about that,” Dike replied.

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HIV? Me? No, I’ m married! (8)

”So how long ago did you have chlamydia infection?” I asked Dike.

 “About two years ago.”

 ”Did you get treatment for it?”

 ”Yes.”

 ”How do you think you may have caught the infection?”

 ”I don’t know,” He shrugged. ”Through sex, I suppose.”

 ”What about your wife? Did she get treated for it?”

 ”My wife?” he asked surprised.

 ”Yes.”

 ”I didn’t get it from my wife.”

 I paused expectantly.

 He shuffled his feet. He was getting impatient again with all the questioning. I saw he wasn’t going to take my bait. He probably felt he had said enough to this nosy doctor.

 How far would you expect your doctor to pry into your private affairs?

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