The Slight Edge

Slightedge

The Slight Edge

Goodmorning Fabulous readers,
Last night I spent 1 hour reading a book called ‘Slight edge’.
I recommend it highly -it’s just a few pounds if you buy the kindle or eVersion of it.

The slight edge in a nutshell can be summarised as- if you have ever been successful at anything, look at what you did to be successful, repeat those steps and you WILL KEEP BEING SUCCESSFUL!!! It is that simple!
No mystery!
No catch!

I felt this was really relevant to healthcare professionals involved in helping people lead healthy lives and lose weight.

I support several women and men in my weight loss/healthy lifestyle program.
I teach my ladies (and gents!) this:

You have lost weight.
What did you do to lose weight?
What food choices did you make?
What type and amount of exercise did you do?

Just keep repeating the same steps and YOU WILL KEEP LOSING WEIGHT!!

No mystery nor magic!
Just continuing the same steps.
Repeat it today and tomorrow and the next….
In other words make it a lifestyle ūüĎä
Have a fabulous day friends‚̧ԳŹ

Dr Adaeze Ifezulike

ps: Are you are struggling with your weight or have weight related medical conditions such as Hypertension, Diabetes, Arthritis, Metabolic syndrome? Get in touch today!!  I want to help you. Health is Wealth!

Conversations with an African Grandmother

JulietGrandmother: Adaugo! Adaugo!

Adaugo (In a very sleepy voice): Eh nnem, I am coming o…
Grandmother: Nwam, I hope you had a good night’s sleep? Hurry up, have your bath, eat breakfast fast and accompany me to visit mama Ikenna

Adaugo: Nnem, isn’t a bit too early to be visiting anyone?

Grandmother: You know mama Ikenna and her theatrics. Her son Ike, came this morning before the sound of the first cock crow, to rouse me from sleep. Your grandfather did not find it amusing at all and even warned Ike severely. First, he asked him if anyone was at the point of death? When Ike replied in the negative, my Batram gave him a tongue lashing and lecture on how young men of today don’t respect the sacred hours that the body needs…

Adaugo (Smiling broadly): Nnem, everyone knows grandpapa doesn’t like anyone disturbing your sleep. He’s always complaining to mama and uncle Jaja that the townspeople bring all their problems to your doorstep.

Grandmother (Laughing cheekily): Woman to woman, you know a man is fully awake and standing early in the morning. Ike’s loud knocking came at a most unfortunate time for your grandfather. I pity the poor young man.
Leave that aside, get ready, let us go across and see what mama Ike is worrying about today. Just yesterday, we finished rejoicing that her daughter Olihe had recently put to birth, a bouncing, baby boy. I pity that poor child Olihe. Each time she comes homes, she’s disappearing more and more into shadow of herself. I hope all her constant quarrels with her husband will finally cease.

Adaugo: Nnem, I’m sure it will be a short visit. Let me just brush my teeth and splash some water. I can bathe fully when we get back.

Grandmother: Okay, hurry up. I still have to finish up my story to your sister, Adaku. I can tell that Ekwunife’s talk hurt her deeply, no matter how she pretends. I know she’s still crazy about that isi coconut she married.

(Loud knocking at the door) Kpom! Kpom! Kpom!
Onye kwa? All these early morning callers! Polycap, Polycap, hurry and see who’s at the gate.

Adaugo: Nnem, let me go and open the gate. I don’t think he’s at home. Polyp said he would be going to Onitsha very early in the morning to buy some plumbing materials to fix his bathroom.

Grandmother: Oh yes, he did mention that to me yesterday. See how my memory fails me, old age is finally here to stay.

Adaugo: Nnem, you’re still the sharpest and smartest woman I know. Let me go and open the door.


 

(Adaugo comes back into the room, followed closely by Mama Ikenna)

Grandmother: My dear neighbour, how are you and your husband? We were about to come to your house. I hope all is well.

Mama Ikenna (Turning to her son and Adaugo): Both of you children, biko wait for me outside the room. Let me speak with my mama Jaja over something very important. (The children exchanged amused looks, with Adaugo rolling her eyes as they both stepped out of the room).

Grandmother: Ngwa, mama Ike, my dear sister and neighbour, o gini? Did anyone die?

Mama Ikenna: No

Grandmother: Is anyone sick? Is Olihe’s baby okay? Is she fine?

Mama Ikenna: No! It’s none of that. (Bursting into tears): It is Olihe’s husband o. Chiedozie has started his madness again. My poor, beautiful daughter, Olihedinma, what kind of bad luck is this? My enemies are after my happiness, they will never succeed. I will bind all of them with the blood…

Grandmother (Interrupting her): Please, biko I beg of you before you start cursing your enemies and binding people up and down, let us unbound your story. Biko, may you please tell me what the actual problem is?

Mama Ikenna: Mama Jaja, ndo. My apologies, it is just that my heart is very heavy today. After I left you yesterday, I went to St Anthony of Padua prayer meeting as we agreed. I had not even announced the good news, before Olihe’s neighbour, Mr Okoro, that very helpful man who lost his wife at the beginning of the year, came to find me and he shared some very disturbing news. Do you know that just barely 24 hours after my daughter Olihe put to birth, her husband raised a hand on her again! What have we done to Chiedozie eh? Why does he keep using Olihe as a punching bag?

Before, I thought it was because she had given him only 3 girls but now that she has a son, he still beats my daughter. Why is this happening to my daughter? Why is this happening to our family. First, her father beat me for years, until he had his stroke and now my own daughter is going through the same thing again! Chukwu nna, o gini ka any melu?

(She breaks down into loud, agonized crying)

Grandmother: Mama Ike, biko I’m sorry but I have nothing to say to you. You already have the answers you seek. The first time Chiedozie beat up your daughter, our beautiful, shy and quiet Olihe, what did I tell you? Did you not ignore me? What do you want me to do now? Tell your daughter to wait till her husband has a stroke or till he kills her, i nu go? Do you hear me?

Mama Ikenna: Mama Jaja, my dear friend and neighbour, please forgive me. I know you’re still angry with me. I should have listened to you before. You know that years ago, when Olihe came back crying and complaining that she didn’t want to be married to Chiedozie any longer, I was the one who told her to shut up and go back to her husband’s house. I thought it was because she had not had a baby boy and so her husband was angry at her. I remember you told me to call a meeting of ndi umuada and umunna so that they could admonish Chiedozie and his family. Yes, you even suggested that she stays home with me and wait till her husband comes for her.

Grandmother: Exactly! Your daughter comes to you in her pain and instead of you to be a tigress and fight for her, you shame her into believing she is less than and unworthy of love. What has having a male or female child got to do with anything? Are all children not gifts from God? You were afraid of what people will say. You fear the tongues wagging. You did not want her to rock the proverbial boat. Okay, ngwa nu, the boat has capsized, do you want to teach her how to swim to safety or are you still living in denial? Call Adaugo and your son Ikenna to come in. This is part of your problem. Why are you hiding these things from the children? How will your son learn to be a better man if you don’t show him the pain caused by his father and now, your son-in-law?

(Mama Ike goes outside and brings in Adaugo and Ike)

Grandmother: Adaugo, Ike, sit down and listen carefully. Ngwa, my sister, tell them about Olihe’s situation.
(After a few minutes of narration, Ikenna rises up in anger).

Ikenna: Mama, I remember when sister Olihe came home crying, a few years after she got married. Obinna and I were very young but I’ll never forget how sister cried and cried and begged you and papa to let her stay. When we woke up in the morning, she was already gone. I remember asking you why she was crying and you dismissed my questions, saying she was being childish. I tried asking more questions but you slapped me and told me to mind my business. Mama, the reason why I never forgot sister Olihe’s cries was that it reminded me so much of yours…

Grandmother: Mama Ike, my sister, you see? The things we think we hide in the dark, the children see with their light. The mother’s pain is sucked by the baby through her breastmilk. You did your daughter and your sons a great injustice. And now you must correct it.

Mama Ikenna: What are we to do? Should we call a family meeting and contact Chiedozie’s family?

Grandmother: Mba, that is the second stage. The first thing is to get your daughter to safety. Ikenna, nwam, go and call your brother Obinna and also all your male cousins. The 4 sons of your father’s brother, nnanyi Ezeugo and your father’s half-brother, okechukwu are enough. All seven of you must come back here, lets plan a visit to ‘strong man’ Chiedozie.

Adaugo: Nnem, biko, I hope you’re not planning what I think you are? This sounds like our family’s famed method alias ‘The Uncle JAJA approach’

Mama Ikenna: My sister, what is this ‘The Uncle JAJA approach?

(Adaugo and Grandmother burst into simultaneous laughter)

Adaugo: Nnem, you will have to tell this story. I was too young when it happened….

Grandmother: My dear sister, mama Ike, its a simple and short story. Hmmmnnn, a long time ago, my hothead of a son, Jaja, the famed writer, came back from obodo oyibo with his wife, Kego. You know Zinachukwudi, Jaja’s wife. She’s our friend, Uzoaku’s daughter. That quiet, respectful and intelligent girl, I was so thrilled that he met and married the daughter of someone I have loved like a sister for years.

Well, just after the wedding they had a quarrel and in the process, my dear Jaja raised his fist against this beautiful daughter-in-law that God blessed our family with. The worst part was that she was pregnant at the time. Alu! Can you imagine the shame and pain? I have never seen a woman love someone like my Zina loved Jaja nwam.

Mama Ikenna: Unbelievable! Jaja dotes on his wife. They are always celebrated on television and in those big, big city magazines. In fact, everyone says he’s like Nna anyi Batram….

Grandmother: My dear, it wasn’t always like that. I know my son has always been hot-tempered, coupled with his mood swings whenever he’s writing those his fat, fat university text books and novels….Anyway, Zina came running to Batram and I to report Jaja’s actions to us. To say we were shocked was an understatement. Where did this boy learn such behaviour? It broke Batram’s heart to see that a son he’d raised would treat a woman so. I was in such a terrible shock. That is the thing with children, they will always surprise you!

So Batram had a lengthy and heavy talks with him for some days and also send him to the Reverend Father’s classes, as he put it ‘so he would learn some more about being a husband and a real man’. Batram even insisted that Zina go back home to her family and stay there for a few weeks while Jaja finishes his ‘manhood’ classes as he termed them.

Jaja was of course shattered by all of this, he apologized over and over again to his lovely wife. In fact, Zina started getting angry at all the hoops that Batram was making her husband jump. The day she was to go to her family, she woke up and suddenly announced to my beloved and I, that she had forgiven her hubby and was ready to get back together with him.

My Batram almost fell for her pleas. But I was adamant. You know the problem with you young ladies of nowadays…

Adaugo interrupting, with mirth: Too much book sense and not enough common sense!

Grandmother: Exactly! Love nwantiti was shacking my dear daughter-in-law. So I called her quietly into my bedroom and had a heart to heart with her. Basically, I told her that unconditional love is a beautiful thing but it also needs sweet conditioning oils of respect and honour, if not it will turn bitter very quickly. I also told her that she must go back to her parents and wait for Jaja and the clan to come and beg her people.

It was important that Jaja also go before ndi umuada and umunna to tell them how he used his wife as a punching bag and disgraced the clan. He would also explain the steps he had taken to understand his triggers and deal with his self-control issues. Of course Zina thought all these were too much for her beloved. She expressed her displeasure that we were giving him such a hard time. But I did not relent and so she went to her people.

Well, the next thing I did was call his male cousins, Bernard’s sons and Zina’s two elder brotherss, they were 7 young men in total. And I instructed them to give my Jaja the beating of his life. Gentle enough not to seriously hurt him but firm enough that he would remember and feel the pain! And thereafter, we happily and proudly accompanied him to plead for his wife, Zina’s hand. And the rest they say is history…

Mama Ikenna: I don’t understand, so why did you have his seven cousins beat him up?
Adaugo: Aunty, that is the same question we all asked when we heard this story. And to this day, we tease uncle Jaja about that beating, albeit to his chagrin.

And it always makes aunty Zina so happy. She always tells anyone who cares to listen with pride: “When my soulmate Jay, made the mistake of beating me, he got the beating of his life, went for manhood classes and came to re-ask for my hand in marriage, with a pledge to my people never to do that again…because I am his queen.”

To which uncle Jaja would always reply by planting a big kiss on her lips and bowing in an exaggerated way to her, saying with aplomb, ‘Indeed, you are my queen.’ Then he would remind us all that his wife loved him so much that she actually begged his parents to forgive him. And that she didn’t want to go back to her own parents…..

Grandmother: Mama Ike, my dear sister, in our tradition, seven is the number of completion and it is important that we always complete the cycle of our stories in order that forgiveness happens.

Mama Ikenna: I still don’t understand, what has that got to do with having Jaja beaten up.

Adaugo: (Laughing) Biko, don’t bother to even listen to grandmama about this her number 7 nonsense. She tries to justify her actions. Truth is, she’s a fierce advocate against violence of any kind and worst of all against women. We all secretly think she beat up Jaja to score a personal point.

Grandmother (laughing heartily): Adaugo nwam, there’s no secret about it. Imagine the shock of my own son raising a finger against his woman, and a pregnant wife at that! Abomination. Which ear will hear this and not be in shock? It is very simple. Jaja beat up his wife. If all he did was apologize and she took him back, that is such a disempowering story for her. And you know how I hate incomplete stories. (Chuckling loudly and mischievously). The complete story today is that he beat up Zina and then 5 of his own cousins and 2 of Zina’s brothers beat him up too. Then, he had to go for a course and come to her people to beg. That is a kind of love story that is sweet for years to come.

It is important that a woman (or man) never settles for a resolution that in years to come will bring up resentment. Plus, every man in the clan now knows that to raise your hand against any woman is not something we do. So, let Ikenna and Obinna gather their cousins, because Chiedozie is about to learn that Olihedinma has mad people in her family too. Sometimes, you have to shake up a bad pattern loose. And if he does not change, mama ike, it is better you settle to accept and love a single daughter who’s alive and well, than a married daughter whose spirit is already dead. She who has ears, let them hear!

Adaugo, eh he, before I forget, remember to ask me about the story of Mama Ezinne’s daughter, Azuka. Her father, Azikiwe, refused to go for her 7th child’s naming ceremony. Azikiwe really impressed me o. There are so many lessons for all of us women in their story. But first, let us implement the JAJA treatment on isi okpukpu Chiedozie.

Adaugo: Nnem!!

Grandmother: Why are you calling me? Since Chiedozie has shown that he has fighting prowess, let us give him 7 of his age mates to practice with, Olihedinma is not the correct match for him, ….(To be continued)

Culled from the super new book written by the amazing Juliet ‘Kego Ume-Onyido of the Whole Woman Network. Available December 2015. We can’t wait to get the whole book and see what happens to chiedozie ūüôā

Amazing Peace: A Christmas Poem

Thunder rumbles in the mountain passes
And lightning rattles the eaves of our houses.
Flood waters await us in our avenues.

Snow falls upon snow, falls upon snow to avalanche
Over unprotected villages.
The sky slips low and grey and threatening.

We question ourselves.
What have we done to so affront nature?
We worry God.
Are you there? Are you there really?
Does the covenant you made with us still hold?

Into this climate of fear and apprehension, Christmas enters,
Streaming lights of joy, ringing bells of hope
And singing carols of forgiveness high up in the bright air.
The world is encouraged to come away from rancor,
Come the way of friendship.

It is the Glad Season.
Thunder ebbs to silence and lightning sleeps quietly in the corner.
Flood waters recede into memory.
Snow becomes a yielding cushion to aid us
As we make our way to higher ground.

Hope is born again in the faces of children
It rides on the shoulders of our aged as they walk into their sunsets.
Hope spreads around the earth. Brightening all things,
Even hate which crouches breeding in dark corridors.

In our joy, we think we hear a whisper.
At first it is too soft. Then only half heard.
We listen carefully as it gathers strength.
We hear a sweetness.
The word is Peace.
It is loud now. It is louder.
Louder than the explosion of bombs.

We tremble at the sound. We are thrilled by its presence.
It is what we have hungered for.
Not just the absence of war. But, true Peace.
A harmony of spirit, a comfort of courtesies.
Security for our beloveds and their beloveds.

We clap hands and welcome the Peace of Christmas.
We beckon this good season to wait a while with us.
We, Baptist and Buddhist, Methodist and Muslim, say come.
Peace.
Come and fill us and our world with your majesty.
We, the Jew and the Jainist, the Catholic and the Confucian,
Implore you, to stay a while with us.
So we may learn by your shimmering light
How to look beyond complexion and see community.

It is Christmas time, a halting of hate time.

On this platform of peace, we can create a language
To translate ourselves to ourselves and to each other.

At this Holy Instant, we celebrate the Birth of Jesus Christ
Into the great religions of the world.
We jubilate the precious advent of trust.
We shout with glorious tongues at the coming of hope.
All the earth’s tribes loosen their voices
To celebrate the promise of Peace.

We, Angels and Mortal’s, Believers and Non-Believers,
Look heavenward and speak the word aloud.
Peace. We look at our world and speak the word aloud.
Peace. We look at each other, then into ourselves
And we say without shyness or apology or hesitation.

Peace, My Brother.
Peace, My Sister.
Peace, My Soul.‚ÄĚ

By Maya Angelou.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A PEACEFUL, PROSPEROUS AND JOY-FILLED NEW YEAR from the Sexual Wellbeing Network.

Maya Angelou was a Poet and Award Winning Author who died in 2014.

Bukola Fash: On men, marriage and sex.

Bukola : Before

Bukola : Before

Bukola: AFTER. Sexual wellbeing network.

Bukola: NOW.

We have been friends for a while and I love the comments she makes on relationships. We got talking and before long we went into a full blown interview on relationships. Below are excerpts from the interview.

On Infidelity: As far as I am concerned, this is an act that results from believing you have another shoulder to lean on apart from your spouse.
It doesn’t have to be sexual, can be emotional. You simply use the person to replace your spouse.¬†But marriage should mean you are there for each other.

Many get carried away into infidelity. Sometimes they don’t know why. They are not even able to define what happened.¬†After some months or years in marriage, women get carried away with chores, children and work. Our lives are full of sacrifices and we unfortunately can neglect the man of the house. You feel that your children need you more than the man. He can take care of himself. The woman is caught at the centre. Many women don’t have time for themselves.¬†¬†She finds she is doing every thing herself, including coping with children. She has no time to sit under the dryer to beautify herself. Meanwhile the girls outside have plenty time to beautify themselves.
Women also complain a lot about the help the man is trying to give them. Eventually the man gives up and leaves her to it.
Infidelity is so common now, 9/10 marriages are marked with infidelity in my opinion -I may be wrong. In my business, my clients are women and they talk to me about these things. Unfortunately, some men take good care of the home front so you don’t suspect them. A man used to come to my office, a CEO, ¬†and if he cant make it home by 6pm, he will be phoning his wife to explain. He looked like the ideal husband. Yet he wanted to date me. He saw dating me as a game.

My husband doesn’t joke with anything to do with me but I cannot close my eyes and think he is a saint.¬†Many men are polygamous by nature.
For them, it is a very interesting game. Men prefer to date married women because they are not too ambitious, they are not pushing for marriage.

Infidelity in women: A woman will only go out if she is not getting enough attention at home. We tend to take each other for granted. The married men go the extra length for the girls outside. The best man-friend is usually the worst husband.
I know men who will sit down while waiting for the girlfriend to chose a style but the married man will be hurrying the woman up. He will be restless. The men forget that a woman needs attention too. ¬†I like being toasted by men, I enjoy it. A man should never underestimate his wife. As he is busy neglecting her, someone else is busy ‘eyeing’ her.

If I catch my husband cheating: I can cope. The only thing that will make me leave is if he is beating me. You have to insist he uses condoms in that scenario.
Don’t move out! Stay put. If you move out, she will move in.

Impact of Social media on relationships:
Many men will put their wives’ pictures on face book and yet be cheating on them.
Social media has worsened relationship problems. Now you can send your boobs picture to the UK or anywhere else in the world by fb messenger, unlike before when distance was a deterrent.

Women and financial independence: A woman needs to be financially independent otherwise this can affect her self esteem. You have to depend on him. You keep begging him, he is your messiah. So if you have no means of income, you are grounded. If you have a good source of income, the possibility is high the man will not leave. I have 3 houses in my name, so my husband cannot just get up and leave me because there is so much at stake.

I will not be stranded if my husband leaves me. I tell my husband, if you lose me, its your loss. I build things in my name.¬†I don’t do joint account because I didn’t see it in the bible.¬†I have a name. I do things in my name. I carry him along. He helps me bring surveyors etc. If your man cannot stand that, you can build in the name of your children. Don’t submit to Mr and Mrs so and so…because anyone can become Mrs so and so tomorrow.

There’s place for prayer, there’s place for action.¬†With prayers all things are possible.
If he doesn’t attend church or have any faith, don’t nag about it. Invite him to programs that may benefit your relationships and¬†don’t give him long stories about what you saw in church. You can summarise and then move on to other things. He is taking it in.

If the woman loves the man, she will have to repackage herself as well as pray. She will gain her self confidence back, will gain the man back. She will attract other men and with that, the man can come back if he sees other people running after his wife.
Looking good/re-branding doesn’t affect the man directly. It makes the woman more confident and happy. She may decline the advances from other men because deep down she loves her husband and wants him back. Let your husband see you as a super hot babe.

What can a woman do when communicate breaks down? She has to ask at the right time. Look for the right time. I know my husband loves me but may not talk to me for days because he is trying to push home his point. I am quick to say sorry because he is my husband. In marriage there is no plan B. We have to work to make it happen. Its not meant for the faint hearted.

Some women are very emotional. They are usually in marriages that are still less than 10 years. Its a phase every one passes through in marriage. You fight over a lot of unnecessary things. But after 10 years you already know what he is likely to say, the pressure at home gets down. The man also calms down. He realises that he is older and stays around the wife more now.

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Of bras, bra-fitters and skin cancer.

One of our readers sent in this article and asked me to share it on the SWN to help other women. I chuckled as I read the first part because I am one of those who have never used a bra fitter…I just sort of estimated what size will work for me and went for it. But it makes sense to get properly fitted and in many shops, this service is free.

She wrote: I will be grateful if you would post this on your blog, Sexual Wellbeing Network. It was my personal experience but I will like to remain anonymous.

I am one of those women who get into the shops and buy a bra that just fits. I then stick to that size. Recently I had a really scary experience when I noticed a scar on my breast. It started with one of my bras being a bit tight, so the iron in the bra was pressing a bit to the sides of my breast.

I eventually changed my bra but after a couple of years, just recently this scar became a bit itchy and I had to go to the hospital. The first thing the male doctor said was ”We need to have further tests as this may just have developed into skin cancer. To cut a long story short I had my biopsies and got the all clear but I need to pass this one to our ladies so you can take better care of yourselves.
Always go for a bra fitting and ensure you are given the right bra size. The bra fitting assistance will help you to choose the right size. Your breasts should fit fully into your bra and the bra should not sit too tightly on your breast as this could potentially damage your breast cells.

Personally I had never had a bra fitting until after this experience.
Wash your bra atleast after every three days.

Include lots of white bras in your collection so you can easily spot dirt and avoid breast eczema which may prove difficult to heal.

Do not use a washing machine to wash your bras, hand wash is recommended.
The straps on your bra should not be used in supporting your breast. Your breast is supported by the right cups in the bra.

A finger should go smoothly in between your bra straps.

Many thanks to the lady who sent this in.

A few additional notes from Dr Adaeze;

Some studies say that poorly fitted bras contribute to breast cancer by blocking the lymph vessels that would normally carry toxic waste away from the breast area. But other studies dispute this.

In case you are wondering why you should hand wash rather than use a washing machine, hand washing helps to preserve the shape and life span of the bra so that it works more effectively.

Poorly fitted bras can also cause back pains, headaches and neck pain as the weight of the breasts is not evenly distributed.

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Think Again -World Hepatitis Day is 28th July

World wide on the 28th of July, Hepatitis is brought to the stage. There are various types of hepatitis viruses. Some are sexually transmitted, others are not. They all cause inflammation of the Liver and in some cases, long term problems like Liver cancer.

On the Sexual Wellbeing Network, we want to use this opportunity to remind our community that Hepatitis is still very much around.

The good news is that it is treatable. But the first step is to get tested.English%20poster%20set%2017%2003_Page_09-14180650

Here are some facts for you: 

Informed? Unaware? Viral hepatitis kills 1.5 million people worldwide each year. That’s as many people as HIV/AIDS. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Informed? Unaware? Viral hepatitis is the leading cause of liver cancer. Liver cancer is the second biggest cancer killer. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Feeling fine? Are you sure? Symptoms of viral hepatitis often go unnoticed. Get tested. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Prevention

Safe? At Risk? Viral hepatitis can be avoided. Know the risks. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Treatment

Treated? Treatable? Viral hepatitis can be treated. Everybody deserves the chance. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Vaccination

Protected? Vulnerable? Viral hepatitis can be prevented. Vaccinate your children. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Protected? Vulnerable? Protect against viral hepatitis. Vaccination works. Hepatitis: Think Again.

Stigma

Accepted? Refused? Stigma kills. Don’t discriminate. Hepatitis: Think again.

Accepted? Refused? Viral hepatitis doesn’t discriminate. Neither should you. Hepatitis: Think again.

 Viral hepatitis can be beaten. Play your part. Hepatitis: Think again,

AND GET TESTED!

Enjoy the official World Hepatitis Video below.

Need more information? Check out the World Hepatitis Alliance site here

 

Another survivor speaks out: Lovely Nevo Burrell on surviving breast cancer.

Nevo Burrell

Nevo talks us through finding out that she had breast cancer and the impact it had on her life. We often think cancer is confined to someone or some people out there. It can be an eye opener to find it so close. Especially in someone relatively young.

 

How often do you check your breasts?
What is your reaction when you find a bump where there should be none?
Do you ignore it and hope it goes away?

We are very pleased at the Sexual Wellbeing Network that beautiful Nevo Burrell has so generously shared her story to encourage other women to be breast aware.
Watch the video below and feel free to share with others.
The Sexual Wellbeing Network community celebrates Nevo Burrell and wish her many more years of fulfillment in her work.Sexual wellbeing network, Nevo Burrell.

Nevo works as an Image Consultant and Personal shopper. A¬†typical consultation consists of colour analysis (ascertaining the best colours that work well with the individual’s natural colouring), styling (identifying the body shape / physique and advising how to dress) – also looking at face shapes and advising on appropriate hairstyles, glasses, wardrobe planning, de-cluttering and personal shopping amongst other things. She can be contacted on nevo@nevoconcept.com and phone number¬† +44(0)7961 175 938

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HIV, Black women, Hepatitis“Yes, that’s wise. It will be good if you all get tested and we can arrange
that for you.”

”Meanwhile if someone has a bloodborne virus like HIV, it is good medical
practice to check for other bloodborne viruses like hepatitis as these can
sometimes go together because they can be passed on in similar ways.”

”Hepatitis?’ Nma frowned “Isn’t that a liver problem?”

”Yes it is. It can be…..’

”That’s what grandma had when her eyes were all yellow,” Aka interjected. Nma
nodded.

”Yes, hepatitis can cause jaundice which is what makes the eye appear yellow.
There are different types: You can get hepatitis A from contaminated food, That’s
not a big problem but the ones we worry about are Hepatitis B and C. These can be
acquired by using unsterilised needles, sexual intercourse, using unscreened
blood or blood products…

”I had a blood transfusion after I gave birth to Aka…so I might have this
hepatitis too?” Nma started crying again.

”Hei, dont think like that,” I chided. ”We need to do a blood test to find out
first. No need worrying yourself to death about something you might not have.”

”Mum please take it easy,” Aka pleaded.

”We don’t have to do it immediately if you would rather take some time to think
about it.”

Nma looked blankly ahead.

”Doctor, lets sort out the HIV first and maybe do the hepatitis later,” Aka
said.

”Fine,” I handed her some information leaflets on hepatitis.

”So how do we get rid of mum’s HIV?” she asked.

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I stood up when he did, our eyes clashing. For once I was grateful for my
height because he was really tall and imposing. I wasn’t going to be
intimidated, however.

“Please do the right thing. Tell her your status so she can get tested’.”

He maintained his defiant stance for a moment.

“And if I don’t?”

“I owe you a duty of confidentiality as my patient so she will not hear it from
me without your permission. But be aware that its a legal offence to
deliberately engage in activity that will get another person infected with
HIV.”
HIV, SEXUAL HEALTH
He lowered his gaze. I could see he was reconsidering so I pushed on.

“Remember it’s not a death sentence, HIV can be treated even though there is no
cure. If she is positive, you can both receive treatment and support each other.
If she is negative, then you can take steps to protect her like making sure you
always use condoms during sex.”

He sighed heavily, rubbing his hand across his forehead. I felt a twinge of
compassion for him.

“Okay” he said at last, raising his eyes. I smiled at him.

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