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One of the commonest things ladies ask me about is contraception. Once I have been introduced to a woman and she learns that I am a doctor, the very next chance she has, she pulls me aside and say ‘Oh doctor, I have been meaning to see someone about this, please what contraception should I be using?’
People want answers to medical issues that they face daily and that is a good thing. The more informed we are, the more equipped we are to make positive choices.
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So – do you remember Amina?-(If you haven’t met Amina, please read my earlier blog at http://adaezeifezulike.com/2013/09/25/contraception-to-ignore-it-or-tackle-it-that-is-the-question-2/).
She found herself with an unplanned pregnancy and had come to the family planning clinic to request an abortion. This happens only too frequently.
We had established that Amina used condoms sometimes and nothing at other times. We will be focusing on condom use in a later post… so watch out!
“So how would you want to proceed from here?” I asked, gently.
“What else can I do, doctor? Abortion is my only option! We couldn’t possibly afford a fourth child,” her eyes brimmed over with tears again.
“How would you feel if I mentioned some option?”
“Like what, doctor?” “What are your thoughts about adoption?”
“What! Have the child and then give it away? God forbid!” She exclaimed. “Our culture does not support adoption…You should know that, doctor,” she ended reproachfully.
“Well, more and more black families are choosing to adopt children, especially those who can’t have their own kids,” I replied with a smile.
“I really don’t know about that. I don’t think I could go down that route, doctor. Any more options?” She asked hopefully.
“What about keeping the pregnancy?”
She shook her head slowly and gave a loud sigh. “We can’t afford another child, really. But I will discuss adoption with my husband and see what he thinks.”
“Ultimately the decision is yours and we are here to help. It’s only fair I highlight other options to you and you can let me know what you decide to do. Shall I see you back in two days or a week’s time?”
She booked an appointment for a week’s time.
When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, what do you do? Many black communities see adoption as something foreign and that means that option is not even considered in many cases. Should we encourage more adoption? What are your views?
What other options are there to abortion?
What would you put in the fourth small circle on the left? Remember: the whole point of this blog is to prevent you from getting to the point where you face an unplanned pregnancy in the first place. Effective use of contraception will help this.
Amina came back to see me a week later. I am sure you would want to know what she decided to do so please stay tuned.
Until next time, have a great week!
Dr Adaeze.
Tough decision!….i dont think she should abort the baby though. Might turn out to be the president one day..lol
🙂 might do…who is to tell?
Dear Dr Ada, your blog is so interesting and relevant to women like myself. Keep up the good work. I think adoption is a good idea but like you have said is the lesser of two evils to remedy a bad situation. However I think the decision to adopt should be made after the baby has been born because rash decisions may lead to more heart break. Since the problem is financial, I think Amina and her husband need to find ways to increase their income to accommodate the new baby. It’s tough but the emotional pain of abortion or adoption I imagine would be considerable.
Glad you find the blog interesting and relevant. Indeed abortion is never an easy decision. I am yet to see any woman who is flippant about it. And that is one of the reasons why I am so keen for women to use contraception. Thanks for your suggestions…